The Brain takes less than a Second to Fall in Love

On the video:

  The thing that struck me the most about the video was the part about making it so that we could download information into our heads. I’m not sure that, as convenient as that would be, it would be a good idea to use such technology, even if it could be perfected.

                It would be the death of human discipline. Discipline is the art of doing things you don’t want to do because you know it’s the right thing to do. As a value, discipline has been dying in the modern era because it is no longer necessary for survival, as it used to be. We don’t suffer the consequences of doing what we want instead of what we ought to as the people of the past did. For example, if you were a farmer in Ancient Israel, you had a harvest time. If you decided that you didn’t feel like harvesting today and would much rather go for a swim, you starved when winter came around.

                Today, we learn discipline in school and with learning. In America, if you apply yourself and work hard, you can go almost anywhere. For the majority of the population, “success” (defined here as “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose” which for Americans = well paying job) takes work because higher-paying jobs tend to be those requiring knowledge (doctor, lawyer etc.) If knowledge could be simply downloaded, we wouldn’t need to work anymore to attain “success”, and all need for discipline would vanish.  

On the Article: 

Love was on one thing for the Ancient Greeks. In fact, it was found distinct bodies: 

Eros – It meant physical passion; its gratification and fulfillment. It came from the mythical god Eros, the god of love. 
Storge – Storge is the natural bond between mother and infant, father, children, and kin. 
Phileo – Phileo love is a love of the affections. It is delighting to be in the presence of another, a warm feeling that comes and goes with intensity. 
Agape  – Agape love is seeking the welfare and betterment of another regardless of how we feel. Agape does not have the primary meaning of feelings or affection. 

(definitions from: http://paxvobisca.tripod.com/literature/fourLoves.html. See! Trying to learn Koine Greek has some practical applications!)

Americans only have one word for these distinct concepts, and as a result, love is a watery word. This is what the dictionary says:

Love:

1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, asfor a parent, child, or friend.

3. sexual passion or desire.

4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.

5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection,or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?

6.a love affair;  an intensely amorous incident; amour.

7. sexual intercourse; copulation.

8. ( initial capital letter ) a personification of sexual affection, asEros or Cupid.

9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love ofone’s neighbor.

10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: herlove of books.

11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.

12. the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or thereverent affection due from them to God.

13. Chiefly Tennis . a score of zero; nothing.

14. a word formerly used in communications to represent theletter L. 

 

And here’s what I say:

·         I love Mother.

·         I love Carly.

·         I love peanut butter.

·         I love books.

Seeing as this word is used in so many ways, is the title “The Brain takes less than a Second to Fall in Love” accurate? 

I read this article (http://news.discovery.com/human/brain-takes-less-than-second-to-fall-in-love.html#mkcpgn=hknws1), and the first thing that really stuck out to me was the use of the word love. This article makes no differentiation between attraction-love and what I consider “real love” until the end of the article, where it says that this sort of love lights up a different part of a brain than that sort.

What I consider to be real love is best described by Paul, who, back in the first century AD, said “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Does real love, the agape love that Paul describes best happen in less than a second? 

I don’t think so; it is hard to imagine that that kind of love can be birthed in less than a second. For me at least, I think it is going to take a lifetime. But does that sort of love have the same positive physical impacts? 

I honestly don’t think that this is what the article is trying to suggest, I would just have appreciated a little more clarity on the author’s part, mostly because this subject is absolutely fascinating.

 

 

By spockinthehood